Gas fees and failed NFT transactions.

So a few months ago I decided to attempt to post an nft on opensea site.

During the process the gas fees apparently changed and I’m still not entirely 100% on the mechanism, but quite a large chunk of cash was eaten up and the transaction never completed https://etherscan.io/tx/0x4d1df0f3ca47fb0e6ab15592cd9e4dfaa855bf6cb16af16cb762a9bea46161b1

I’ve since come to learn this is intended. Which seems absurd to me personally.

My question here is, is this just a growing pain thing? Or do the developers intend to keep this kind of system in place where customers lose their money ?

This was enough for me to bail on the nft market snd eth chain. I can’t imagine I’m alone here.